Money, the world's lubricant

What is money, and why do we need it? The way I see it, money is the lubricant which enables our commercial world. We need it to pay for services, and businesses need it to keep afloat and to pay their staff, who in turn need it to live their lives and pay for essential […]

Our roles do not define us

Close connection was not something I experienced as a child. Looking back, I can see that we never got to know each other, or at least I felt no one knew me. We related through our roles. My role was the youngest child, the one with the least understanding and maturity, the last to be […]

Contentment, from where does it come?

This week has been spent at home with my boy convalescing from the COVID virus. I had made plans for the week, all of which have been cancelled, along with many in the forthcoming week. Being forced to spend time at home without the pressure of pleasing others creates a space to reflect. Lately, I […]

Achievement, is it all it is meant to be?

Sometimes the thrill of the chase can be better than the prey itself. In the same way, the thought of achieving a goal can be more enjoyable than having achieved what we have sought after for so long. We work hard to get a qualification, improve our position in life, or get fit. But when […]

What is your love language?

According to author, Gary Chapman, there are 5 different love languages. He states that these are quality time, physical touch, acts of service, receiving gifts and words of affirmation. For me, quality time is a priority when it comes to my close friends. Mostly, I like to share deeply with one at a time. Being […]

Self-acceptance can seem elusive

Self-acceptance has always seemed elusive to me. Given my family history, there are still times when I question my perceptions. Despite my best efforts I battle with my thoughts when triggered.  In hindsight, most of my interactions with my parents left me feeling undermined. I was brought up to question my opinions, worth and existence. […]

LOVE, THE ANTIDOTE TO CHILDHOOD REJECTION

Last week I visited my father for the first time in a while. If you have read my book, Death by Chocolate Cake, you will know that our relationship is not healthy. From as early as I can remember I have been afraid of his moods. Most of my adolescent memories are filled with his […]

The fragility of life

This week I was confronted by the fragility of life. A close friend lost a family member. Having lost my mother and brother who were both around my age at the time, this brought home to me how fragile we all are, including myself. Despite my family struggles, I love them a great deal and […]

Guilt, the sticky fly trap       

When I was young flypaper was commonly used as a fly trap. It involved a sticky strip of paper which hung from the ceiling, usually the light in the centre of the room. Flies were attracted to the paper and would get stuck. Over time the strip would be covered with bugs who had been […]

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