Happy International Women's Day!

Today is International Women’s Day and I am proud to say that I am a woman. Women are still undervalued in our culture and our contribution is often overlooked.   I grew up in a misogynistic environment where women were considered less valuable than men. In his memoirs, my grandfather placed greater value on his […]

What are your barriers to love?

This week mum would have turned 95. At 58 she had a stroke from diabetes related illness. She died nearly 5 years later. Mum’s stroke caused a change in her personality. She lost her inhibitions and talked about things that she had kept secret. She disclosed that she had not wanted another child when she […]

I love food!

These pictures are of me. The main picture was taken in 1994 and the other in 2021 at my book launch. I love food! Eating and cooking are some of my favourite things to do in life. Food is such an important part of me, and I eat a lot of it! Despite my love […]

What's love got to do with it?

“What’s love got to do with it, got to do with it? What’s love but a second-hand emotion? What’s love got to do with it, got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?” These are the words to Tina Turner’s song. What does love have to do with […]

The significance of trauma

My posts often describe my trauma and how I deal with it. This is because my eating disorder was rooted in trauma. There seemed to be no other way at the time but to eat to cope. Trauma is a deeply distressing or painful experience. Our society teaches us to push our pain down to […]

Great Expectations

In his book, “Great Expectations”, Charles Dickens tells the story of Miss Havisham, a wealthy spinster who was jilted at her wedding. She insisted that she wear her wedding dress for the rest of her life. I wonder how many of us identify with Miss Havisham. We hold on to a promise waiting for it […]

What are your New Year's Resolutions?

Do you do new year’s resolutions? I usually don’t. I never keep the promises I make to myself as they are not maintainable. New year’s resolutions are usually short-term promises to fix long-term problems. If it took over 10 years to develop the problem, it will take some time to change the behaviour. These resolutions […]

Happiness is an inside job

Over the past few days I have been thinking about the concept of giving and letting go. We tend to believe that accumulating “things” will bring us happiness. We obtain more and more “things” in the hope of finding that happiness. We think that getting these “things” will satisfy our undiscerned need. But, looking at […]

The loneliness of Christmas

Tonight, is Christmas Eve and I have been thinking about others who live alone like myself, those who have no family. This time of year can be extremely lonely for us. As Christmas comes once a year, we do not face these intense feelings every day and we are unprepared to deal with them now. […]

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