Femininity is something I have struggled with most of my life. I have never been petite or thin, nor have I spoken with a soft, gentle voice. Even as a child I was larger in height and in breadth. I never felt like a girl and as an adult I struggled to see myself as feminine.
Sadly, we tend to judge others by what we see with our eyes. Our eyes do not allow us to see inside, and if we don’t know ourselves, it takes longer to get to know another person. So, we tend to judge by appearance. The less self-aware we are, the more first impressions will count. This means our appearance will matter more to us and those to whom we are drawn.
For me, the opinions which count the most are from those who take the time to question their understanding of the world, those who think a little more deeply. As we are all living, thinking, and feeling beings, what is on the inside matters most to me.
Over the years I have learned a few things about myself and what it is to be a woman. Perhaps I don’t fit everyone’s definition of feminine, but I do fit mine. In a nutshell, I am a woman, so I am feminine.
Every woman (and man) radiates femininity in a different way. Yes, men do have feminine traits and that is perfectly okay. Sadly, many have been taught that feminine traits are weak. To overcome this, some of us act strong and pushy. Others exaggerate their femininity to manipulate. But what if we question our culture’s definition of femininity? Perhaps the definition is not static, it changes as time goes on. Perhaps we should decide what it means for us.
I suggest you let your authentic self radiate from within. That is, be authentic to who you are on the inside. Don’t let the expectations of others dictate how you should look. Instead, let your natural femininity radiate.
Defining what it is to be feminine is to expect ourselves and others to fit in a box. For me, that is suffocating.
If you want to chat about your innate beauty, message me for a chat.
In love, Jenny
